Thursday, July 30, 2015

A Few Simple "Value-Increasing" Hacks For Men

One of the idea behind the San Diego Man Camp project is improving the lives of our participants. Currently, we do that with open, honest discussions in our private, male-only Facebook group (feel free to join us; we welcome new members!), but will soon expand to include some workshops and other activities. Ultimately, we reject the idea that we're all special snowflakes and we can "just be ourselves" and all our dreams will come true.


We have to work to get what we want, and the harder we work, the better the return. That entitled "I deserve great things without actually having to do the requisite hard work" mentality has polluted the minds of far too many men. I'm impatient, though. The planning of the workshops is incredibly time-intensive (see? Hard work.), but I'd like to give my readership a tidbit that'll start making a difference today.

Here are a few simple "hacks" men can use to increase your value on the sexual market. These tips will not only help you get dates (for the single dudes out there), but also help the attached dudes to be better men in their relationships. Don't care about ladies or sex? These tips will still help you socially and professionally. Whatever your life mission happens to be (except maybe those that aspire to be basement-dwelling gamers), these tips will help you out. So... here ya go:

  • Lift weights. In a society where about 74% of adult males are overweight or obese and fitness is considered physically attractive, being in that "fit" 1/4 of the male population is a HUGE advantage on the sexual market. Let's be honest - the ladies love muscles. Add in a diet that utilizes the principles of moderation and variation along with a little cardio, and you have the recipe to join an ever-shrinking elite class. 
  • Be confident. Confidence is sexy as fuck (in both men and women.) We currently live in a culture where the majority of men have a shit-ton of anxiety about women, which completely undermines confidence. The solution? Act confident. Even if it's just an act, practicing pseudo-confidence results in positive results, which then leads to the development of real confidence. 
  • Improve posture and body language. Most men today have horrible posture, which undermines how their body language is interpreted. Stand up and sit straight. Puff your chest out a bit. Don't cross your arms or hold shit in front of your body. Take up as much physical space as you can. Move and talk slower.
  • Master eye contact. The rule - the person that holds eye contact the longest is the most socially-dominant, and social dominance is the key to getting to the top value of the sexual market. When making eye contact, look from one eye to the next after two or three seconds. If it helps, count the other person's blinks. 
These four simple tweaks will dramatically increase your perceived attractiveness, your social ranking in any given group, or both. All four will definitely increase your value.

Generally speaking, becoming a better man involves improving your appearance, your social skills, your social status, your income, and your lifestyle (think "adventure-seeker" versus "gamer".) We tackle all of these in the SDMC, so this list is only intended to whet your appetite. 

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